Different Approaches for Different Folks
Updated: May 26, 2018
Guest Post by Mary Pap, the Potty Fairy
Co-authored by Allison Jandu, Potty Training Consultant
One of the beliefs we have at The Potty Fairy is that “one size, fits all” does NOT work for potty training.
We believe that children are unique and families are unique which calls for a unique potty training plan. Another word used for a unique approach to learning is called “differentiation”. Differentiation means that the approach to learning is different or individualized for each child, so that individual needs are met and the learning environment is specific and targeted.
Differentiated potty training could be thought of like baking a cake. We all might decide to bake a cake but does that mean we all bake the same flavor? Do we all bake the same shape? Do we all put on the same kind of frosting? The cake itself could be a symbol of potty training. We are all going to potty train. The flavor of the cake could be associated with the method we might choose to potty train. The shape of the cake might be the individualized plan we add to the method for potty training our child based on our child and our family's lifestyle. The frosting on the cake could be thought of like the rewards, motivators, and ways we celebrate our child’s success. Make sense?
The Potty Fairy products we offer are enrichment and enhancement products or the “frosting” or decorations on the cake. The Potty Fairy offers books, dolls, tee shirts, underwear, stickers, crowns and The Potty Fairy Potty Rider. We are planning to add a few more fun treats too! We bring in the imaginative play world that children love to learn in thru our book, song, fun clothing, and toys.
The Potty Fairy also shares this blog and we have posted 35+ posts that target potty training topics to help you decide what your unique potty training plan will be. Our webinar potty training has been popular for larger groups of people who want to learn together. During the webinar, parents are presented lots of information and together we develop individualized plans. After our presentation, we have an open discussion and Q/A time. Our webinar presentations are followed by email conversations for those parents who are interested in further discussion.
There has been a space in our outreach that has not been filled. There have been requests for individual consultation which we have not been able to provide for parents other than email correspondence. Then we met, Allison Jandu, who is a Potty Training Consultant and specializes in Custom Potty Training Plans to fit any family’s needs! She also has a blog. We reached out to Allison and asked her co-author the blog post this month so you could meet her. We are so very excited to introduce you to Allison!
As a professional consultant having worked with countless families to potty train their children, including my own two, I can tell you that there is no one-size-fits-all potty training method.
Every child is different. My son, who is older, took a very casual approach to potty training. He was willing to follow direction and was eager to learn. My daughter, on the other hand, is very independent and headstrong, so I had to take an entirely different approach when potty training her. This is a perfect example of what works for one child, might not work for the next. So many factors contribute to how your child will learn including age, personality, your family’s lifestyle, and medical or developmental issues.
Not only is every child different, but every parenting style is different. Chances are you won’t always agree with every single aspect of one particular potty training plan. Then what? How do you change it to match your lifestyle? If you change one thing, will everything else still work? Getting your own individual plan avoids all of these questions and allows the potty training process to blend seamlessly into your lives with minimal disruption.
We all want the process to go as smoothly and quickly as possible, not just for our child’s sake, but for our own! This is why being prepared with a customized potty training plan is so important. When you are armed with the proper plan and STICK WITH IT, potty training is almost always a success. It is also very important to have a strong support system in place for you during the process and for your child after the process. When you work with a consultant, you have a wealth of knowledge about potty training at your disposal for any questions or roadblocks you encounter as you go.
So, maybe you have no idea where to start. Maybe you tried potty training before without success and went back to diapers. Maybe after potty training your first child, you are dreading attempting it again. Working with a consultant and having an individualized plan going in really sets your child up for success. It also makes the process a lot easier on you – and who doesn’t want that!
Contact me today to find out how to get a custom potty training plan in the works for your child.
Potty Training Consultant